22.08.2014 Spirituality

Stop the Blame Game

Freedom lies in accepting responsibility for our own choices rather than playing the blame game, suggests David Arenson

"Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I'll meet you there. When the soul lies down in that grass, the world is too full to talk about. Ideas, language, even the phrase "each other" doesn't make any sense." ~ Rumi (13th century)

Let's meet in this field, far away from routine.

Stop everything you're thinking about, and just consider these words printed on your page or screen, appearing magically, mesmerisingly in front of you in multicolour. Did you ever think how your life is created as reality, and yet how much are you conscious of, and what is actually real?

We live inside a bubble of perception.

Everything that seems real isn't. Everything is an illusion, and arguably the only thing "real" is the soul.

What people are seeking is seeking them. What people are seeking is inside of them already. It is waiting, it is asking them to wake up. It is tapping them on the shoulders.

What you focus on is really reality for you, but it's not "true reality", if there is such a thing. Absolute reality is beyond human perception.

The world I see around me is filled with people rushing around doing things, and trying so hard to make it in the world. What would happen if everything stopped - just momentarily - and everything went silent? Imagine the difference it would make.

Imagine what it would be like to live in a mindful world, where people could actually be fully present, and lend their presence to their life. Bringing the full force of mindfulness, one's conscious awareness, to each instant, would be power of such magnitude it would stop the world. And stopping the world would change the world.

We could become aware of our choices, become aware of ourselves and how we have created our circumstances; how we are responsible for everything in our lives.

Everything we do is based on the choices we make.

The deep subconscious programs that run are consciousness that is usually beyond our awareness or conscious responsibility. These programs are often not even ours and we are probably unaware that they run our lives. We are victims of our programming to a degree. The moment you become aware of this is the moment you "wake up" and start becoming consciously aware of these programs. At that moment, one becomes responsible for one's choices.

Everything I do is based on the choices I make. I am only responsible for how I perceive what unfolds, which I desire to be enjoyable. The more responsible I am, the better choices I will make. Choices are based on what we are aware of, which is admittedly - and pitifully - little.

Is there such a thing as a "victim"?

From the soul's perspective, there are no victims.

Life isn't always straightforward. I do not mean to diminish or neglect sufferers and the oppressed. On one hand, there are bullies and perpetrators of violence and, on the other, are their "victims".

There's a difference between blame and responsibility. Actions have consequences. A culture of taking responsibility is really the ideal, instead of being "victims". Where there is a case of someone being bullied, it's important to address it, and work with the bullies, as well as those being bullied. Rehabilitation is the ideal. A victim should neither be shamed, nor a perpetrator punished, to an extreme. A perpetrator must learn there are consequences to his or her actions. Consequences don't need to feel like humiliation or shame. Sensitivity is required. Call this a mindful approach.

I dream of having conscious freedom to decide, to choose my own path. True freedom is not to be free of others; it is to be free of our conditioning, the one who controls us.

To know that you are a soul - that is freedom.

Let's choose now, together as a society, to remove blame from our emotional vocabulary.

Let's stop blaming our parents.

Let's stop blaming our lover, partner, children and grandchildren.

Let's stop blaming our boss, job and economy.

Let's stop blaming our social status, economic status, gender, age, skin colour, religion and nationality.

Let's stop blaming circumstances, or the weather!

We are responsible for every choice we make, every decision, every thought, every feeling, every action.

Make that responsibility count.

Come and live fully in presence.

Come and live fully in the present.

Come and live fully in freedom.

Come and live fully...

David conducts Skype sessions from his Perth home and is available at web:www.transformationalmedicine.net

David Zenon Starlyte

David is a channel for Divine wisdom. His intuitive coaching, speaking and healing sessions invoke purposeful shifts into deeper connection, confidence, self love, abundance and happiness. An empath, David's healing is focused on bridging the gap between addressing core wounds and reaching limitless possibilities, to living an extraordinary life. David’s passion for synthesising Eastern and Western approaches to spiritual wellbeing, has seen him immersing himself in the biblical tradition as a monastic, studying Western Naturopathic Medicine and Buddhist / Taoist Healing under three living masters - Master Chen in China, Grand Master Mantak Chia (Time magazine’s top 100 most spiritually influential living people) in Thailand and Ajahn Brahm (one of the world’s foremost masters of meditation) in Australia.

For more information, he can be found at: Website: http://davidstarlyte.com, , Email: davidstarlyte@gmail.com , Facebook: http://facebook.com/iamstarlyte

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